Nicole Thomte

Welcome! My name is Nicole Thomte, my pronouns are she/her or they/them, and I am a Licensed Marriage (Couple) and Family Therapist, MN #3853 and IA #126567, providing teletherapy to folx. My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals who live outside the confines of dominant society's expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/kink/CNM/polyam/etc adults (18+ years old), using a largely solution-focused approach from an intersectional feminist lens. I know that these populations are underserved in current society, and my goal is for you to have the inclusive support you deserve to improve your life the way you want. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum. I recognize the places of privilege I occupy, while honoring being a part of the queer, CNM, kink, invisible illness/Spoonie, and fat communities. It is important to me to openly state my condemnation of this country's engagement (and all nations who support Israel's heinous attack on a captive population) in the ongoing brutal genocide of the Palestinian people, and my unequivocal opposition to Zionism. I am firmly opposed to antisemitism, and I stand in solidarity with Jewish colleagues and friends who condemn Zionist hate and cruelty in their name. My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You're the expert in your life, and I'm here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than solely relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses. Using a systemic lens, we will acknowledge those things that are distressing that are parts of our many broken systems, validating that it is not you who are broken. Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered. I worked at a behavioral health agency once I was approved for my state intern license in 2013. The population we served were most often persons who have the most difficulties: often already on disability or in the interminable waiting period after having applied, with multiple health troubles, and with the least access to needed resources. Since before even starting my work as a state intern, I had begun attending supervision groups and co-facilitating survivor groups under the auspices of Gender Justice Nevada in November, 2012. Over the nearly six years until my hiatus in July, 2018, I learned from the bravery of survivors of sex/gender based violence, oppression, and discrimination, including sex/gender diverse young persons, the families and loved ones of sex/gender diverse persons, and sex workers, as I provided therapeutic group facilitation in addition to individual, couple, and family therapy, due to my drive to advocate for marginalized communities. I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.